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10 Things I Love About Being A Pastor

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Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of serving as pastor in three Kentucky Baptist churches, along with several interim roles. Through it all, I’ve experienced the unique joys—and occasional challenges—of pastoral ministry. While every pastor’s journey is different, I love many things about being a pastor.

10 Things I Love About Being A Pastor

1. Walking Through Life With People I Know and Love. One of the greatest joys of pastoring is being woven into the everyday lives of church members. From weddings to hospital visits, from baptisms to funerals, I get to walk alongside people I truly care about. As someone who loves people, these connections are both meaningful and deeply rewarding.

2. Offering Encouragement in Difficult Times. Life isn’t easy—for anyone. But as a pastor, I’m often invited into moments of hardship, pain, and uncertainty. These moments are sacred. They give me the opportunity to offer hope, encouragement, and the reminder that God is near.

3. Preparing to Preach God’s Word. Each week, I open the Bible and ask, “Lord, what do You want to say to Your people?” The preparation process is both challenging and invigorating. And honestly, before I ever step into the pulpit, God has already preached the sermon to me.

4. Serving Alongside a Godly Staff. Ministry is not a solo act. Working with a team of dedicated, Christ-centered staff members is one of the joys of church leadership. When we’re united in purpose, it makes the work not only more effective but also more enjoyable.

5. Watching Kids Be Kids. There’s something beautiful about the laughter, honesty, and energy of children. They keep us grounded and remind us what matters most. Plus, they’re great at making us smile—sometimes when we need it the most.

6. Seeing People Become Passionate About Jesus. Nothing compares to watching someone’s heart ignite with love for Christ. Whether it’s a new believer or a long-time church member deepening their walk, seeing spiritual transformation is a thrill that never gets old.

7. Having My Own Passion for Jesus Renewed. Serving as a pastor constantly draws me to a deeper reliance upon Jesus. The responsibility of shepherding others drives me to remain rooted in Him and to stay in His Word daily. It’s both humbling and energizing.

8. Helping the Church Refocus. Churches, like individuals, can lose focus. Helping a congregation rediscover its mission and realign with God’s vision is one of the most rewarding parts of leadership. A renewed focus can lead to renewed fruitfulness.

9. Leading With Vision and Purpose. God calls pastors to lead—not just administrate or maintain. Leading a church with prayerful vision, bold faith, and Spirit-filled purpose is both a heavy responsibility and a great honor. Churches need leaders who are willing to step up and lead with courage and clarity.

10. Learning to Follow Well. Even as a leader, I’m still a follower—first and foremost of Jesus, but also in how I trust and empower others. Good leadership means knowing when to step back, delegate, and cheer others on. Leading well starts with following well.

Final Thoughts
Being a pastor isn’t just a job—it’s a calling. And while it comes with its challenges, the blessings far outweigh them. I’m grateful every day for the privilege God has given me to serve local churches and walk this journey of faith with others.

5 Reasons to Seek Help with Conflict

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In their helpful book Redeeming Church Conflicts: Turning Crisis into Compassion and Care, Tara Klena Barthel and David V. Edling remind us that there are times when it is wise to involve others in the midst of church conflict. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness—it is an act of humility and wisdom. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”

Here are five reasons why inviting an outside, godly helper can bring clarity and healing when conflict arises.

1. We Have Blind Spots. Conflict clouds our vision. Because we are emotionally invested, we often cannot see clearly. Others, especially those who are impartial, can discern perspectives we may miss. Scripture reminds us, “Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the heart” (Proverbs 21:2). A wise and godly third party can help us see what God sees more clearly.

2. We Forget the Truth. When our hearts are weighed down by burdens, it is easy to lose sight of God’s truth. A faithful helper can gently turn our eyes back to what is good and right. The apostle Paul exhorts us: “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things” (Philippians 4:8). God often uses the encouragement of others to lift our thoughts back to His promises.

3. Our Fear Is Powerful. Fear can quickly take control when we feel we are losing influence, position, or something we treasure deeply. Fear distorts judgment and feeds division. Yet God’s Word speaks directly to our fear: “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7). A wise third party can help calm our fears and point us back to faith in God’s sovereignty.

4. Our Tempers Need Restraint. Anger is a dangerous spark in any conflict. The presence of a neutral mediator can help keep emotions in check and set boundaries for respectful conversation. James writes, “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19–20). Godly counsel provides space for anger to cool and for grace to work.

5. We Need Encouragement. Conflict often leaves us weary, discouraged, and tempted to lose hope. A trusted encourager can remind us that our hope is not in winning an argument but in Christ Himself. “Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise Him, my salvation and my God” (Psalm 42:11). Outside help can point us back to the unshakable foundation we have in Jesus.

Closing Thought: Conflict is hard, but it can also be an invitation from the Lord to grow in grace. When we seek wise help, we are walking in humility and trusting God to bring peace where strife once ruled. Remember, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matthew 5:9).

Prayer: Lord, when conflict comes, remind us that our hope is in You. Give us humility to seek help, courage to face our fears, and faith to trust Your Word. Make us instruments of Your peace, so that Christ may be glorified in His church. Amen.

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Popularity Vs. Purpose

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One of my favorite books of the Bible is the Gospel of Mark. I appreciate his “just the facts” approach to the story of Jesus. Mark doesn’t waste words—he gets right to the point.

Recently, I had to smile as I read this passage:

“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed. Simon and his companions went to look for him, and when they found him, they exclaimed: ‘Everyone is looking for you!’ Jesus replied, ‘Let us go somewhere else—to the nearby villages—so I can preach there also. That is why I have come.’”
—Mark 1:35–38 (NIV)

Doesn’t that strike you as odd? Just as the crowds were gathering, Jesus slipped away. Most leaders chase the spotlight. They dream of filling stadiums, building platforms, and gathering followers. But Jesus? When His ratings spiked—He took a hike. When the numbers were high—He said goodbye. When the crowds grew—He bid them adieu.

Unusual? Absolutely. But deeply instructive. What can we learn from this surprising moment?

3 Keys to Following God

1. God’s plan is rarely like our plan. We’re drawn to the predictable, the practical, and the popular. But God often leads us into the unexpected, the unconventional, even the unthinkable. His ways are higher than ours. Trust Him, even when His path doesn’t match your plan.

2. Don’t be shaped by others’ expectations. Like many, I struggle with being a people-pleaser. The opinions of others weigh heavily on me. But in the end, there is only one opinion that matters. We are called to live for an audience of One. Pleasing God must always outweigh pleasing people.

3. Never exchange good for God. Not everything that is “good” is God’s will for you. There are many good things we could do, but they aren’t always the things He is leading us to do. The real challenge is learning to discern the difference.

Summary: When we see Jesus walk away from the crowds, we’re reminded: God’s ways are not man’s ways. Following Him means trading popularity for purpose, applause for obedience, and good intentions for God’s direction.

Which of these three keys speaks most to where you are today?

Being A Good Example

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I’ve always wanted to be a good example, but that multiplied exponentially when I became a grandfather. The truth is, one of the greatest gifts we can give our family, co-workers, and other believers is the example of a faithful life. Paul reminded young Timothy of this truth when he wrote:

“You, however, have followed my teaching, my conduct, my aim in life, my faith, my patience, my love, my steadfastness, my persecutions and sufferings… yet from them all the Lord rescued me. Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.” (2 Timothy 3:10–12, ESV)

Paul wasn’t simply telling Timothy what to believe—he was showing him how to live. Timothy had seen Paul’s doctrine, his daily conduct, his endurance through hardship, and his unshakable faith. That’s the pattern for us today. If we want to influence others for Christ, we must be willing to let our lives speak as loudly as our words.

4 Ways to Be A Good Example

1. A Good Example Teaches Truth. Paul began with teaching. Right doctrine matters. People are being pulled in every direction by voices that deceive, but a faithful believer points to Scripture as the unchanging standard. To be a good example, you don’t need to know everything—but you must cling to the truth you do know, and pass it on with humility and confidence.

2. A Good Example Lives What They Teach. Doctrine without conduct is hypocrisy. Paul could say, “You’ve seen my teaching and my conduct.” The world may ignore our sermons, but it notices how we treat our spouse, how we handle money, how we respond when things don’t go our way. Every believer’s life is a message. The question is: is it pointing people toward Christ or away from Him?

3. A Good Example Endures with Faith and Patience. Paul’s life was marked by hardship—persecution, rejection, and even violence. Yet he remained steadfast. That kind of endurance only comes from faith. When we continue to love, serve, and trust God in the face of trials, people see that Jesus is real in us.

4. A Good Example Accepts That Persecution Will Come. Paul was clear: “All who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.” The faithful life won’t always be easy or applauded. But our response in those moments—our patience, love, and steadfastness—shines the brightest witness. A Christian who suffers with grace proclaims the gospel more loudly than a thousand words ever could.

Summary: Being a good example is not about perfection—it’s about faithfulness. It means teaching truth, living consistently, enduring trials, and trusting God when the road is hard. When we do, others will see Jesus in us, and our lives will echo Paul’s words: “From them all the Lord rescued me.”

Closing Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank You for the faithful examples of Paul, Timothy, and so many others who have gone before us. Help me to live in such a way that my teaching and my conduct match, that my faith is steady, and that my love is sincere. When trials come, give me the patience and steadfastness I need to honor Christ. May my life point others to Jesus, not to myself. Keep me faithful, even when the road is hard, and remind me that You are always with me and will rescue me in the end. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

The Practice of “Slowing”

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One of the great books on spiritual disciplines is John Ortberg’s book, The Life You’ve Always Wanted:  Spiritual Disciplines for Ordinary People. You can read my review of the book by clicking here.

One of the spiritual disciplines he talks about in the book is the practice of “slowing.” Have you ever thought about “slowing” as a spiritual practice? One of his mentors told him that if he wanted to grow spiritually that he must ruthlessly eliminate hurry from his life. Listen to a great quote from his book:

Hurry is the great enemy of spiritual life in our day. Hurry can destroy our souls. Hurry can keep us from living well….Again and again, as we pursue spiritual life, we must do battle with hurry. For many of us the great danger is not that we renounce our faith. It is that we will become so distracted and rushed and preoccupied that we will settle for a mediocre version of it. We will just skim our lives instead of actually living them.

Most of us battle the hurry sickness, but how can we treat it–how can we cure it? There are two main practices that can help us swim against our culture’s current of hurry.

1.  Slowing. Slowing involves cultivating patience by deliberately choosing to place ourselves in positions where we simply have to wait. Slowing will seem like such a “waste of time,” but it is invaluable. Here are some examples. Deliberately drive in the slow lane.  Chew your food slowly. Get in the longest check-out line at the grocery store. Go through an entire week without wearing a watch. Read each sentence slowly–then read it again even more slowly.

2.  Solitude. Solitude is a more traditional spiritual practice. I’m not saying that we should take it to the extreme and join a monastery. I’m just saying that solitude is the one place where we can gain freedom from the forces of society that will otherwise relentlessly mold us. When we’re “alone” with God–He molds us!

We need some small measures of solitude every day. A walk, a short drive, working in the yard, sitting in the car before going into the office, a quiet time–all these serve as moments of solitude. On occasion, we need longer periods of solitude. Take an afternoon to yourself or even an entire day. Go to a place where you will be uninterrupted and alone. Spend the day relaxing, reading, walking, napping, etc.

Both of these practices have been vital to my spiritual growth and to my ability to hear from God. By the way, if you haven’t read John Ortberg’s book on spiritual disciplines, you must do so. Here’s a link to Amazon where you can purchase the book and get started. I wish I had read this book as a new Christian and learned about the practice of “slowing” and many of the other spiritual disciplines that have helped me to grow in recent years.